She thought she could…so she did


I'm Nancy McKay… 

and I believe that to be courageous you must first be vulnerable. 

My Personal Street Cred…

When I started questioning my drinking, I desperately wanted to know that I wasn’t alone. I needed a support structure when I first began to notice that my drinking was getting out of control, but I wasn’t ready to quit drinking. If I had a coach guiding me through what I now know were limiting thoughts and beliefs about my drinking and my life, I may not have had to hit my rock bottom.

A really bad day…

Friday the 13th of March, 2009 was a really bad day, which pretty much ended with a bang. Thank God my lack of skills with a gun prevented me from killing myself.  I realized that my drinking had become unpredictable. I thought my life was over and I would never have fun again. What I soon learned was I was standing at the intersection of desperation and grace.

The birthday gift I didn't want…

In 2015, on my 58th birthday I was diagnosed with Stage 1C ovarian cancer.  During chemo, I lost my hair but I found something so much more important – my inner strength

My perspective changed and I realized that if I wanted something different in my life it was up to me to make the necessary changes. I began training for my new career in 2017. 


My Coaching Credentials

I’m a Certified Wayfinder Life Coach through Martha Beck, Inc., a Certified Equus Coach® through Koelle Institute for Equus Coaching®, as well as a Certified Mind-Body-Eating Coach through The Institute for the Psychology of Eating. These intensive training programs have given me the tools to effectively and compassionately help women face their challenges. I partner with my clients to bring transformational change to their lives. 

You'll notice dragonflies here…

Dragonflies represent spiritual growth through change and transformation.

Those who identify with the dragonfly often possess many unique abilities, and often bring change to their immediate worlds and far beyond.

I want to help women globally transform their lives by really examining their thoughts and beliefs. Many women are conditioned to believe things that are simply not true.

My clients become aware of how their thoughts affect their lives. If we're not conscious of our nagative thoughts, we are imprisoned by them.

Is drinking or some other coping tool (food, drugs, gambling, Netflix)…

  • preventing you from showing up in your life fully?
  • numbing out your feelings instead of allowing yourself to “feel all the feels?”
  • reducing your flexibility and adaptability?

If so, you're in the right place. Let the power of the dragonfly inspire your transformation!

Because of all the challenges and changes that I've been through, you can see why the dragonfly resonates with me so significantly.

Finding purpose in my pain…

My experience with alcohol and cancer, together with the valuable training I've received, gives me the expertise, compassion and skill to guide my clients on their journey of exploration and empowerment.

I am honored to be a contributing author to the Ready to Fly Anthology – Volume 3. Sharing my story inspires others to explore what's standing in their way. We all face different circumstances in life. How we deal with them is our choice.

I have served on the Board of Directors for the Colorado Ovarian Cancer Alliance since 2018.

Last Tidbits

My mantra is, I didn't get sober and survive cancer to be miserable. I have found my voice, sometimes to my husband's chagrin! I'm a feisty Irish/Scottish woman of a certain age who has the tendency to talk like a sailor (I used to drink like one.) I’m a feminist, a fairly moderate liberal, and I vote. I wear a bracelet that states “Wake Up-Kick Ass-Repeat” which I try to live up to. Most days I do, sometimes I don’t. 

But that’s life—one step at a time. Progress not perfection.

I love hanging out with my husband Jimmy,  and our two rescued Westies, Maggie and Tommy. 

Dragonfly Inspired Transformation

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