Do You Want to Feel Better?


“Never, never, never give up.”

– Winston Churchill

I wanted to feel better, do better, show up fully in my life…

Long before I got sober, I knew that I was drinking too much. I vividly remember sitting on the patio one afternoon drinking a glass of chardonnay, seeking the meaning of life, and reading The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.


I started feeling worse and worried…

A few years later, I bought another book, Drinking: A Love Story by Caroline Knapp. I was curious about recovery, but just the first few pages hit so close to home, that even the thought of reading the book meant I would have to commit to sobriety. And, I just wasn’t ready.



For years, I would cringe thinking of all the time I wasted, getting wasted. Then I would lay in bed remembering about how I put a loaded gun to my head in 2009. My stomach would get tied up with knots thinking of how I almost ruined everything, but how it also scared me enough to give up alcohol.


Mindset is everything…

I have mentioned mindset in the past and if you’ve seen any of my videos on Facebook or YouTube, or followed this blog, you’ll know how much I believe in, and am passionate about, the power of mindset. Now I’m going to actually show you my favorite coaching and life tool – The Model which was created by Brooke Castillo founder of The Life Coach School.



Unintentional Model – When your thoughts are in control of you

C:        Write one CIRCUMSTANCE or FACT

T:         Write ONE THOUGHT you have about the circumstance

F:         When you think that thought, what is ONE FEELING it creates for you?

A:        When you feel that way, what do you do or not do (Actions)?

R:        Looking at you actions/non-actions, what RESULTS do you get?

Intentional Model – When you are in control of your thoughts

C:        Write the same CIRCUMSTANCE or FACT

T:         Write ONE thought you WANT to think about the circumstance

F:         When you think that thought, what is ONE FEELING it creates for you?

A:        When you feel that way, what do you do or not do (Actions)?

R:        Looking at you actions/non-actions, what RESULTS do you get?


Chances are you haven’t seen anything like this before, so it may not make sense to you. As you can see, this isn’t just “positive thinking” or rainbows and unicorns. This is using your thoughts to create the results you want.


Getting curious?

This is a pretty cool tool, right? If this makes you curious about how to apply this in your life, reach out to me. If you want to explore your relationship with alcohol, I’ve got you. Listen, I know how you feel because I’ve been where you are. This is scary, right? If you’re drinking more that you intend to or want to, I’ve been there.

You may not be drinking alcoholically – yet, but you may be on your way. I can help you.


Ask yourself these questions:

Do you want to feel better?

Do you want to do better?

How important is it that you show up fully in your life?

You may be suffering right now, right this very minute. Or, you may just be ready to explore your relationship with alcohol. I can help you.

Next steps…

You can request a copy of the guide I created: Have You Had “Enough?” – 5 Ways to Handle Your Fear When You Want to Stop Drinking.  You can download it here and learn some tips to handle the fear when you’re worried about your drinking.

Then, when you’re ready to learn more, I offer free one hour consult calls. I can show you exactly where your thoughts are getting in your way and how to make a shift in your mindset.

I can help you learn about your relationship with alcohol, why you drink and why you may want to quit. And If you decide you want to quit drinking, I can help you do that too – it’s simple (but not easy).

So, request my eBook and when you’re ready – let’s hop on a free consult call. I will give you a full hour of to show you how valuable coaching is and how I can help you. And my guess is that you’ll learn a few things about yourself you weren’t aware of.

Let’s start creating the life you want.


My name is Nancy McKay and I help women who want to explore their relationship with alcohol. Over-drinking is a symptom of a bigger issue, and as a team we uncover the answers together. I have been sober since March 14, 2009 and I've been where you are. I found my courage and strength and I guide my clients to discover theirs, too.

Interested to find out if coaching is right for you?

If you’re looking for a coach that will inspire, motivate and empower you AND that knows how you feel – we should talk. Helping women make a shift in their thinking and in their lives thrills me to pieces and drives everything I do.

Here's what one of my client's had to say:

“Nancy provided coaching during a challenging time in my life. She listened and shared insight to help me gain perspective. Working with Nancy was amazing! I will be forever grateful.” 

Your Life. Your Choice.


I’m here for you when you’re ready…

If you think you’ve had enough, I invite you to choose you, once and for all. See what getting support feels like by scheduling a complimentary assessment call. Click the button below.

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