What's Everyone Going to Think?
Do you worry about what other people will think of you? Does that impact your actions?
It did for me!
On one hand, I didn't want to alienate my drinking “buddies”, so I didn't want to admit I was worried about my drinking. I knew they would minimize my problem and I didn't want to make them feel uncomfortable around me (as if I have that power).
On the other hand, I didn't want to admit my problem to my real friends, the friends who have always had my back, because I knew they would encourage me to quit, and I wasn't quite ready for that yet, either.
Here's what I've learned since I got sober – it doesn't matter one damn bit what anyone thinks.
“What you think of me is none of my business”
It's true and whie it took me a while to embrace this sentiment, I'm there now. Maybe it has something to do with my age. I believe I've found my voice and my true purpose.
What do you think of you?
If you're drinking is causing you worry on top of the hideous hangovers and the nagging regrets, please know that you're not alone. You are not alone in your abusive relationship with alcohol (lots of people on that ship with you), and you're not alone if you want to do something about it – lots of us on the Good Ship Recovery, too. It also doesn't mean you should feel ashamed, either. You are not “less than” or a loser because your body reacts to alcohol the way it does.
What can you do today to take care of yourself?
- Feel proud of yourself. If you are even considering the idea of quitting drinking, you should be proud of yourself. That desire comes from an inner wisdom that we all have, but most of us either ignore, or silence with the help of alcohol. We live in an alcohol centered culture, and it is killing us. To go against the popular culture and have a deep knowing that alcohol is holding you back from a better way of life is an act of courage. I hope you are aware that you are stronger and braver than you give yourself credit for.
- Treat yourself like you would treat your best friend. Be nice to yourself.
- Give yourself a (self-compassion) break
- Practice mindfulness – understand that everyone makes mistakes
- Be gentle – focus on what you can learn from your mistakes
- Be honest – evaluate yourself with honesty
- Change your critical self-talk
- Notice the words, tone, etc. Would you talk to your best friend that way?
- This is your Inner Lizard talking, and you can gently tell her to rest easy, you’ve got this handled.
“When we give ourselves compassion,we are opening our hears in a way that can transform our lives.”
~ Kristen Neff
My name is Nancy McKay – Author, Speaker and Certified Life Coach. I help women who are worried about their drinking. Over-drinking is a symptom of a bigger issue. I have been sober since March 14, 2009 and I've been where you are. I found my courage and strength and I guide my clients to discover theirs, too.
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