Today, I wanted to share 8 ways I know from experience can help you show up fully in life so that you really can feel happier and more inspired. They help and I believe they will help you, too.
Here they are:
- Get clear on what you want
- Be accountable
- Be authentic
- Be of Service
- Show Compassion
- Be Grateful
- Be Nice
- Have Fun
Get Clear on What You Want
For me, knowing what I really wanted out of life took a while. I’m a recovering people-pleaser, so identifying what was important to me was a little difficult. I was clear on my values though and that helped me identify how I wanted to show up and be seen. You can use the list of core values below to help get you started.
I find that if I’m accountable to someone other than myself I will follow through on what I say I’m going to do. This has been very helpful in all the training I’ve been doing – there’s always someone ready and willing to keep me on track which makes it so much easier for me to show up fully, each and every day.
Seems easy, right?
But, if you’re anything like me, it’s hard to be authentic if you’re trying to please everyone else. This is where Step 1 comes in handy and why it’s first.
Get grounded in who you are, find your voice and use it. Then get out there and SHOW UP as the real and totally brilliant YOU!
Be of Service
This one is self-explanatory – help a sister out, won’t you? Lend a hand without being asked. One of the best things about being of service is it gets you out of your own head.
Helping someone is one of the best things you can do for yourself.
Not everyone is as lucky as you are and you’re not as lucky as some others. Everyone, and I mean everyone has a challenge that we may know nothing about – just like you most likely do.
Compassion is different than sympathy and very different than pity. Just be kind to everyone and don’t forget yourself!
This is my favorite go-to for feeling good. List ten things you’re grateful for – go on, I’ll wait. There, feel better? Here’s several of my top never changing items:
- My sobriety
- I’m cancer free
- My husband, Jimmy
- My unwavering faith in myself
Again, self-explanatory. Don’t be an ass. Say please and thank you. Hold the door for the next guy.
Truly, what goes around comes around. Karma can be a bitch.
So, show up as the kind, caring soul that you are and help make this world a better place for us all.
This should be easy – but we all need to be reminded, at least I do, to build in fun every day. I’m not terribly consistent and that will be something I’ll need to discuss with my accountability partners! This week I’ll be in San Diego for my first onsite Equus Coach training session – fun is on the agenda – big time. Horses! Yippee!!
Have a fabulous week friends and please drop a comment below or an email and let me know what you want more of in your life. What are your values? What are you grateful for? And what the hell are you going to do for fun this week?
My name is Nancy McKay and I coach women, most of them are over 50, who are going though a major transition in their lives and don’t know what the hell happened. They’re feeling lost and afraid because they don’t know what their future looks like. I help them figure out how to feel happy and at peace with their life.
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Core Values List
Authenticity Achievement Adventure
Authority Autonomy Balance
Beauty Boldness Compassion
Challenge Citizenship Community
Competency Contribution Creativity
Curiosity Determination Fairness
Faith Fame Friendships
Fun Growth Happiness
Honesty Humor Influence
Inner Harmony Justice Kindness
Knowledge Leadership Learning
Love Loyalty Meaningful Work
Openness Optimism Peace
Pleasure Poise Popularity
Recognition Religion Reputation
Respect Responsibility Security
Self-Respect Service Spirituality
Stability Success Status
Trustworthiness Wealth Wisdom